Parenting Tips to Help Your Child Behave Well

Parenting Tips to Help Your Child Behave Well

Tiger Moms are, after all, doing something right. Chinese Americans make up only 5% of the US population but 20% of Ivy League students, according to the most current US Census Bureau report. Try implementing some of these uncommon parenting practices from the East if you want your kids to have similar stats. 

Encourage your own improvement. Parents in China do not view the word "perfect" as derogatory. The Confucian ideal of perfecting oneself is the foundation of Chinese parenting strategies, claims Jin Li, a psychologist at Brown University. How do you perfect yourself? with training. On most weekday afternoons, add 1 hour. Extra time will assist your child in achieving her maximum potential whether she is working on practice math problems or memorizing lines for a school play. 

Praise for anything your child does, according to the Tiger Mom school of thought, merely shows her that you have low standards. Parents in China save praise for something truly deserving—like an A+—and lavish it on their children liberally, according to Dr. Desiree Qin, a professor at Michigan University and expert on Chinese parenting. Encourage her to perform better the following time to deal with Bs; this will make your small learner strive harder for your praise if it is more difficult to come by. Additionally, avoid expressing general congratulations in favor of highlighting achievements that were gained. By always striving to be "the brightest" or achieve any other unattainable goal, "You're the smartest girl ever," can set your child up for failure. Instead, be precise and concentrate on how and why she succeeded: You did a fantastic job.

Save your embarrassment. Former Tiger Cub and author Tess Gerritsen claims that some Tiger Moms, like Chua, employ the shame approach to deter failure. But she discourages it. While Gerritsen claims that her parents' humiliation made her stronger, it also left her with the ongoing belief that she will "never be good enough, talented enough, or work hard enough," according to Gerritsen. When your child doesn't meet expectations, praise her for her accomplishments rather than criticizing her for failing. Also, encourage her to keep working hard.

Show her that it is enjoyable to work hard. Parents in China place a strong emphasis on the idea that the reward is the whole goal of working hard. What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is pleasurable unless you're good at it, Chua writes in her book. Together, choose a musical instrument, and plan daily practice. If she persists, she'll be rewarded with a fantastic job in a band or orchestra and discover that hard work pays off.